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heal yourself whole while carrying on
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hey, salty caper.
bandaids donāt always make it better, and healing generally involves way more time than weāve been socialized to believe
whether weāre talking injured body parts or emotional wounds, surface healing doesnāt mean your insides are well yet, and often the most healing work doesnāt show visible results for more time than weād like
real healing takes time, and trying to shortcut it will yield cut short results
weāre just so damn busy though, so eager to slap a well sticker on our foreheads so we can get back to it (whatever IT happens to be)
but of course when we donāt get weeds out by the roots, those pesky little suckers grow right back, donāt they?
trickier still, sometimes we donāt know what the weeds actually look like, which makes it awfully tough to root them out
i donāt remember the context from when i scrawled this phrase in my notebook, āheal yourself wholeā
but i decided to add "while carrying on," because that's the challenge, isn't it?
iāve been having lots of conversations lately that, even when they donāt seem on the surface to be about healing, are actually very much about healing
they all require some element of healing ā they all spring, as least in part, from a wound of some sort
and none of them can be healed in a vacuum
so i encourage you to consider if you feel able ā when faced with a struggle, a frustration, a broken boundary or an obstacleā¦
what healing might need to happen or be in process of happening ā
and how might you take care with yourself knowing that?
and i knowwwwwā¦
you donāt have time for that
you canāt afford to go easy with yourself
you have shit to do. people need you strong. your business needs you strong, too
halfhealed is better than weepy + wounded right now
iām not going to shame you or gaslight you. iām not going to tell you that you just need to change your attitude or focus on how this is happening FOR you, not TO you
if that was accessible to you right now, youād already be doing it. and itās terribly insulting to insinuate that your big feelings are baseless + your concerns are merely mindset problems
you know we donāt do toxic positivity here, bloom
but we also donāt let ourselves heal not at all just because we donāt feel like we can heal all the way
so it becomes about how we can allow ourselves to heal in imperfect recurring pockets in order to ultimately heal well
how we can heal WHILE living life, tending to obligations, fulfilling responsibilities
without martyring ourselves or driving ourselves into the ground
because healing is, as they say, a journey + not a destination
itās a lifestyle that you either commit to or get consumed by
and when you stop looking at it as something to get through for the next 5-10 days or 6-8 weeks + start accepting that itās cyclical, infinite, everpresent ā
when you stop thinking that that means youāre doing it wrong or that the world is out to get youā¦
thatās when you can let yourself learn how to nurture yourself in the midst of your challenges + everyday life ā
and to do it before youāre so wrecked you need a week or a year to recover
you can let yourself heal in an hour nap here, a rescheduled appointment there, an afternoon of sunshine today + a call with your bestie, therapist or coach tomorrow
you can honor the healing that needs to happen every single day in order to make it through that day
which isnāt to say that you wonāt need bigger healing, too. you get to heal big, bloom
but you ALSO get to heal a little bit every day, too
healing is a tender endeavor that weāre all in some sort of evolving process around, always
itās time we start normalizing kindness around it, toward ourselves in our own + toward others in theirs
so that we can all show up to life in the midst of our healing, doing the best we can, together
iām so grateful for the convos around healing that iāve been having lately
iāve kept this a bit vague because everyoneās got a different entrypoint, a precariously unique collection of wounds to heal
but in case itās helpful, here are a couple concrete ways iām in process with healing myself right now:
although iāve healed from the bells palsy that left one side of my face temporarily paralyzed last year, my face has become a caution alarm that starts to tingle when iām exceptionally stressed + donāt take intentional care with my sleep, nutrition + mental health. itās scary to feel like it might be happening again, but it also feels like a gift that lets me know when i canāt keep pushing my limits ā
business is slow right now, and itās hard not to internalize it or take it personally. the resulting financial struggle stirs up past money trauma while also affecting my current experience. iāve done a lifetime of personal growth work around this, and have decided itās time to seek therapy (may is mental health awareness month, and a great time to consider where you might be able to use some support, too!)ā ā
i ended things with someone i'd been seeing a while back, but it still hurts when he ignores a message i send in a weak moment, and that leaves me feeling emotionally tender + annoyed with myself for reaching out. but when i look back over time, i see how much iāve changed those tendencies to reach back out, and how quickly i now move on from feeling bad about it
being gentle with yourself doesnāt mean avoiding responsibilities
it means doing what you know you need to do to be well enough to meet them well, while remaining emotionally well, too
and believing that youāre worth your own emotional wellness
because oh, sweet bloom, you are
xxoo, cc
šŖš½ self-trust is one of the most powerful tools you can carry with you on your healing journeys
if youād like to see what a short-term dedicated practice of developing self-trust + tuning in to your inner wisdom can do for you ā
whether youāre feeling into your healing or are ready to make moves on that thing youāve been putting offā¦
iād love to offer you a 40% savings off of a 4-session series this month
(your 40% off savings code is embedded in that link + will be active through may 31⦠AND today is a great freaking day to get started!)
got Qs? hit reply + ask em, bloom šø
xxoo, cc
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