hey, mango mousse.

as you may already know, i’m leading a workshop on wednesday all about how to say NO without spiraling, feeling bad about it, worrying that people won’t like you any more, or that they’ll be mad at you, or that they’ll think you’re an asshole
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i’m not claiming that you won’t ever fear those things again, but that you’ll be armed with techniques to make it easier to overcome those fears, or to say NO when you need

these techniques can start to change the way you experience the stress response in your body you might feel when faced with a request you don’t want to say yes to

and this starts to shift the narrative of cultural indoctrination a lot of us have experienced around people pleasing, self-sacrifice, and self-worth

for example, whether explicitly or not, a lot of us, especially women, are taught to put our own needs beneath everyone else’s, that to do otherwise is SELFISH

that to say NO is selfish, rude, inconsiderate

that our value lies in how well we care for other people’s needs

so we try to prove our worthiness by saying YES the most, and ignoring our own needs the most

something as simple as saying NO when you want to say NO can not only bring boatloads of peace + joy to your days —

but it can actually be a revolutionary act of refusing status quo + forming new narratives

and when you dare to say NO WITHOUT apology…

well hell, THAT goes still further in terms of shifting narratives

because every time you APOLOGIZE for your perfectly acceptable NO —

you further the notion that it’s not ok to say NO, that saying NO is something for which to apologize

and oh how i would love to see us all STOP apologizing out of habit, be default, just because we’re refusing to ignore our own happiness + needs

down? then join us!

it’s this wednesday september 23rd, from 6-8pm ET

this is a special virtual event being held in collab with billie smith of the rebel movement club

after the workshop, billie will lead us through a movement practice meant to ground, support + bring peace

billie is hosting this event, and is based out of canada. so the pricing you see will be in CAD (with a rough USD equivalent shown on the reg page!)

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