hey, grape pop.

for the longest time i said i didnt know what i wanted in a relationship, but i think it was more that i didn’t wanna get stuck in a shitty version of what i wanted

so i chose not to name it at all

that way i didn’t have to say to anyone: “yeah, but not with you”

well, the other day that’s exactly what happened. and it SUCKED

i get why i’ve avoided it for so long lol

because the guy? he’s a great guy. he’s kind. we have chemistry

in several ways he COULD be my guy, but in a couple key others, he just is very much not

and while there’s not always rhyme or reason to what can or can’t be compromised or overlooked, the rhythm of the truth rings true in your body if you let it

learning to honor it rather than fight it + make yourself wrong for it is the path to self-love and, once you get through the sticky parts, a deep + abiding experience of contentment that makes literally everything better

but damn if it isn’t so much easier to peace out when there’s been an obvious transgression

and damn if you don’t feel like an asshole when there hasn’t

but this also felt like having my own back in a way i hadn’t realized i’d been neglecting

it got me thinking about how we might do this in our businesses, too

so why not ask yourself:

what kind of relationships do you want — in your business + your life?
which relationships, when you’re being honest, are you tolerating more than enjoying — for any number of reasons that may or may not matter?
which are you holding onto (or letting hang on) just to avoid an uncomfortable conversation?
where are you letting your desire to give people a chance + not feel like an asshole rob you of right-fit partnerships + easeful exchanges?

whether it’s a partner, a client, an employee or a social connection that doesn’t light you up, cheer you on, or otherwise improve your mood or lighten your load…

the more you practice saying “this just isn’t a good fit,” the easier it is to say

and the more you actually mean it when you say that it doesn’t make either of you wrong

and the less personally you’ll take it when someone says the same to you

anything here land for you? you know i’d love to hear all about it

xxoo, cc

ps: the flip side to this is identifying which relationships you can give a little room to bloom + make a little less all-or-nothing. there’s magic there, too

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